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there's nobody with high enough authority to chall- enge the acceptance from an eight year old boy. And you know why the trouble and pain in bringing him along for eight years was worth it and that you really aren't going to have to worry a lot about him, whatever happens. And you made him....

Now I must admit to not having met nor known even a fraction of the Married TV's Susanna must have. But perhaps I have met a proportional number of married couples in general. And their problems are the same. Susanna says the wives would rather their husbands were drinkers or gamblers--HAVE THEY EVER BEEN MARRIED TO ONE? HOW DO THEY KNOW THEY WOULD?

Virginia also says a lot more understanding and planning should go into the situation before marri- age (remember we're talking of single TV's, so those of you who are already married are excluded) and that if the girl doesn't show some sign of under- standing and adjusting, then she is not good wife material--and so for the groom as well, as hardly needs saying. But let me warn the single TV--the girl who says she's willing to accept may not be-- after all, if she's a woman at all, she's sure she can reform you. Secondly, there's no such thing as a perfectly compatible marriage--and the inevitable disharmonies that occur focus on the most outstand- ing faults--usually the dressing in the case of the TV.

I think a good--and a realistic way to assess the situation is to ask yourself-- do you "live" for the moments you can dress--and those moments alone? If so--don't attempt marriage. In fact, forget about much of anything, because that isn't living.

On the other hand, can you have a depth of feel- ing for another person that your greatest joy in life is seeing that person happy? You gotta prime the pump--don't you see--because whatever you do for

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